One of my favourite moments was that of last year when I got promoted in my job. At first, I thought I had successfully climbed the corporate ladder. Days were rolling by like a fruitful endeavour, life was happy. As I got promoted, the joy inside me was tremendous, Finally beating myself over and over, I started considering myself successful.
On my way home when I told my toxic colleague who is one level above me about my promotion.
He frowned and said, “ No matter how many promotions you get, you will always remain below me”.
That comeback hit me and I felt devastated as I can clearly see the jealousy all over his face. That one statement instantly took the joy out of me as it was from a person whom I have considered a close friend throughout my entire life. The statement numbed me for a while as I was not expecting this from him.
He started emitting toxicity the moment I revealed my promotion.
Have you ever counter these kinds of negative comments at you once in your lifetime?
The bullies at workplaces, school or anywhere when trying to bash you with a lot of hate comments. You feel lethargic and pathetic.
And the worst part is when you start feeling defenceless and unable to counter these hateful sayings.
Once these negative comments get into your brain, it’s hard to get rid of them.
No doubt, these comments get flung at you by none other than toxic people. They are all around us disguised as normal human beings. They are like little wild hyenas tearing you apart day by day.
Once you spot them, I suggest you to instantly get away from them as they carry negative energy.
In this article, I will tell you how to repel toxic people.
Recognize toxic behaviours
Toxic behaviours are hard to recognize at first glance.
You can’t repel a person without knowing what kind of energy he carries. It’s hard to tell whether a person carries a negative or positive energy. In order to pinpoint toxic behaviour in people. what kind of energy he carries depends on these things.
- if his body language is clear and confident, he might be emitting positive energy, while closed-off or tense body language can signal negativity or discomfort.
- identify facial expressions- Genuine smiles and relaxed facial expressions suggest a positive disposition. Conversely, frowns, clenched jaws or frequent expressions of annoyance can indicate negative energy.
- Listen to their words- what they rave about can tell a lot about them. People who frequently complain, criticize, or speak negatively about others often carry negative energy. Those who speak optimistically, express gratitude and show kindness tend to exude positive energy.
- Action speaks louder than words- Notice their actions. People who act kind to others typically carry positive energy.
Set Boundaries
if you ever felt somebody taken advantage of your kindness. You need to set boundaries by yourself. You need to be firm and clear when you and with whom you will act kindly. If you are too kind to mean people. No doubt you will be taken advantage of.
Your relationship with them will be toxic. In order to overcome this problem.
You better set boundaries. Establish what behaviours you will not tolerate.
Communicate your boundaries clearly and stick to them.
Practice self-care
self-care above all.
Your self-care should be the number one priority. It’s better to be alone rather than involve yourself in toxic conversations.
spend some time alone. Be less social. Avoid situation which causes you to feel more stressed out.
Loneliness can also cause depression. If you feel depressed and anxious.
The best advice would be to Seek Support. Surround yourself with positive, supportive people who uplift you.
Detach and let go
If some relationship demands let go. Then it’s better to cut ties as soon as possible. Stop trying to fit in and having conversations with toxic people.
Try not to take their behaviour personally and keep your emotional distance.
Holding on to toxic people can deteriorate your mental health and well-being.
Be mentally tougher
Be mentally tougher to charge down those hateful comments and never let them affect you.
There is no denying fact that to be mentally stronger one has to strengthen his thought process. Weak thoughts can shatter a person’s abilities, whereas strong thoughts can maximize the person’s potential to great extent. If you have a great thought process, you possess the abilities of being a mentally tougher person. You can tackle the toxic behaviour and are more likely to subdue it.
once in a lifetime, we all come across the notion that “mindset is key “ and no doubt that is true. Everything stems from mindset if one can have great thoughts, he has the power to reframe those negative comments into positive ones.
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